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How Do I Get Along With My Colleagues?

2008/10/16 10:58:00 41880

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When you need someone else's help very much at work, and when this person has some kind of discord with you, what should you do? Obviously, giving up is not a good way. It can be done without any effort, but it will make you lose a good partner.

What you should do is to turn your enemy into a friend and make it your friend.

Here are some ways to help you achieve this goal.

　　（1）勇于承認(rèn)自己的不對(duì)之處

Don't always be afraid to admit that you are wrong.

In fact, people who really have the ability are brave enough to admit their mistakes.

Even if the way your colleagues express this idea does not make you jump up, you should be willing to acknowledge the correct opinions of the other side.

No, this does not mean that whenever a militant colleague attacks you, you must raise your hand to surrender.

But the first thing you should consider is the information contained in what the other person says, not the speaker.

And you should strive to be objective in your opinion, even if it is not expressed in a particularly objective way.

Also, there is a small secret to remember: to admit that you are wrong often brings the benefits of closing your mouth.

This is a classic way to create stunning silence.

　?。?）對(duì)別人的興趣加以注意

The best way to make the other person feel good about you and to be your friend is to pay attention to his interests.

　　（3）對(duì)威脅性的問題不要理會(huì)

Sometimes we hear other people's threatening questions. "Who do you think you are?"

"Didn't your senior school teach you anything?"

"Have you never heard of an emergency plan?"

These problems and their numerous variants are not asking for information at all. They are just to make you lose your balance.

Do not reply to them emotionally - do not answer them at all.

Simply pretend that they didn't burst out of your colleague's mouth. You just go back to your theme: what do you feel (rather than what it is)?

What do you plan to do?

And what do you want to do?

In this way, if you don't give your colleagues the opportunity to abuse you, it may be possible to reduce his or her dependence on this kind of threatening problem.

　?。?）讓對(duì)方知道你非常需要他

This is very important, and it can raise the enthusiasm of the other party to a large extent.

Of course, whether you really need it is another matter.

Our idea is to use such a kind of acceptance to elevate the self-esteem of the other person. When the other party is happy, we can avoid intensifying the conversation and minimizing or eliminating future hostility.

You can mention that two or three aspects of your job require your colleagues to provide advice or guidance.

If you want to further identify these aspects, your colleagues will probably not be too opposed.